Talking about sex, let alone opening up about it when things aren't going well, can be humiliating for some people.
However, according to a recent survey, 15% of men and 30% of women have some form of sexual problem, whether it's difficulties getting aroused, climaxing, or a complete lack of interest in sex.
According to a Relate poll, one in three people claimed they weren't sure if their sex life was good. Perhaps our culture's obsession with sex, as well as (at times ludicrous) media beliefs about 'how to have wonderful sex,' has made it impossible for people to appraise their subjective, personal experiences without a standard to compare them to. This is a concern because people may become confused and unwilling to discuss their difficulties openly, and may even believe they are defective.
Sexual desire naturally fluctuates at different times of your life (or your month, week or day for that matter), but if a problem has persisted for three months or more it is worth talking to someone about it, especially if it is having a negative impact on other areas of your life, such as your relationships, mental and/or emotional health and sense of self. There is no need to feel ashamed or self-conscious, and the right person listening, professional or otherwise, will ensure that you do not.
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